11 WAYS TO CULTIVATE SENSUALITY AS A SUPERPOWER

I just got off the phone with one of my girlfriends tonight and she said one of the nicest things to me that I could hear. She said I would be the person she needs to come to to get advice about sexy time outfits, tips, tricks and maybe even some pleasure accoutrements.

I am PROUDLY that friend.

Now, it’s not the first time I have heard it but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t insanely flattered and excited every time I hear it.

The immutable power of sensuality, our essence and our inner erotic innate superpowers.

“There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don't need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain”. - Audrey Hepburn

I strive to share this magic more and more and leading the charge is this amazing sensual alchemy that we all have lingering within our cells and our being waiting to be sparked up.

“Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other.” - Esther Perel

A lot of you have not met me in person but I evoke Vargas girl or whatever curvy pin up you have in your head - but a feminist kinda empowered loud and proud growth driven version. I know that I move a certain way and being a Libra my natural capacity to flirt is alive and well while my Scorpio rising gets the come hither energy stoked.

They being said, ownership is very different than just looking it. It took me years to own and embrace this embodied sensual side of mine. When I wasn’t in my power I attracted the wrong attention, I prioritized the pleasure of others over mine and needed a shit load of validation to feel desired. Believe me, it took me many years to heal and I am still a mega work in progress. The imposters are real BUT I know my purpose, essence and superpowers and they work as blinders in the big picture.

Now, to fill our cups.

I associate sensuality and the innate erotic as an energetic that we all have the capacity to cultivate. Just like intuition, it’s a muscle we build but lives within us regardless. It’s a part of the sexual picture for sure, but I see it more as an empowered way of being that allows us to feel like we are living from a full cup.

I say our hotness is our essence shining through for all to see.

Like we are coming home to our Self. From a place of embodied overflow, from owning and feeling into our needs and desires and exuding that into the world. From that place, when we shine outward, we attract aligned humans and experiences.

It’s a form of abundance and authenticity, sexual or not.

I would even go so far as to say this is the fullest expression of the powerful divine within emanating outwards.

“So many of us were taught to keep a lid on anything and everything outrageous. To just turn it off. We turn off our life force, turn off our feelings, turn off our sensuality, and as a consequence, we turn off our power.” - Regena Thomashauer

That being said, sensuality is a dance with ourselves first. It’s a reclamation and an awareness that allows us to build a foundation that ultimately leads to deeper pleasure and exploration.

Whether solo or in partnered sexual experiencing. Whether in life, how we tend to ourselves and our pursuits.

I want to emphasize that it’s so much more than how we show up for the other. It’s about us and our desires and curiosity and empowered embodiment.

Ultimately leading to deeper pleasure, expanded horizons and knowing what turns us the fuck on.

Generally speaking, it’s magnetism and self love at it’s best.

Then, even when we do show up say in the bedroom, we show up in our power and have it mirrored back to us like a big ol god/goddess.

Thanks Sheri, this is all well and good but how do I get there?

Now, sensual cultivation happens in the little moments. It is made up of tiny and intentional actions and curious moments that then exude outwards. Like when we prep for a lover, we start to tune into the experience well before the act and build tension, right?

So here are some hot tips to get you on track.

1. Find what is uniquely sexy and pleasurable to YOU. I was talking to a friend the other day and was asking her something about lingerie and she said that it’s really not her thing. So I responded by saying each person has a unique version of adornment that suits them and I am super down to help her find it. Same with what is sexy and pleasurable for you, knowledge is power and it’s also a confidence booster. Find teachers, authors, community, friends and accounts that support and inspire your growth and exploration.

2. Sensuality comes from within so getting in touch with your feelings, how you like to feel in your body, how it moves, grooves and likes to be touched is really helpful. We can only exude out what we know. Know that this is a process and a practice as accessing feelings can be harder for some than others.

3. Channel a Playboy bunny. I am being cheeky when I say that! What I mean is, find an inspirational person (s) that really represents YOU. There are so many different versions of sensuality in this world and ways of expressing it. Find your inspo and expanders.

4. Adorn yourself in an aligned way - know what looks nice on you and for your shape, personality, expression and style.

5. Mirror work -often when we look in the mirror we find fault first. We use it as a tool to reduce flaws so why not talk to yourself with kindness and call out your strength in the mirror and send love to the places that need it. Self acceptance and love are keys to building sensuality.

6. Self Massage - I am on team self touch in many ways but for the sake of this chat, I’ll talk about oiling up your body and massaging it on a regular basis. In Ayurveda it’s called Abhyanga and it’s a form of self love. It’s a way to create connection and calm our precious nervous systems.

7. Build erotic tension - sensuality isn’t a one and done experience. It’s a cultivation and a building up of experience that can culminate in more connected one. It can take us out of the ho hum of schedules and the everyday and add a little spark.

8. Make space to fill your cup and tend to yourself and know what brings your body and mind harmony and balance.

9. Movement - whether you are dancing, stretching, doing yoga, walking down the street or doing squats, do it all in a way that helps you connect to the way your body moves and feels. Dance and non linear movement is especially great for aligning with the divine feminine powers. I love stretching or doing yoga using touch as well. There are so many ways to connect in a purposeful way. Also when we take care of this vessel, we also feel more connected to her.

10. Connect to your cycles. Believe it or not, connection to cycles and learning about what my body does at any stage of the month and in life, has helped me tremendously in connecting to my sensuality. Knowing our natural rhythms is a connection to our natural life flow and therefore our sensual nature as well.

11. Getting to know your essence and purpose. The more authentically we live, the more we connect to our sexiness and feel turned on by life.

All in all sensuality and sexiness is never about size, a certain look or anything the media dictates it should be. It’s a wonderful energy that starts within.

Its the energy of flow, of creative expression and alignment. Think sacral chakra abundant goodness exuded.

I want to honour the fact to that some of this connection takes a lot of healing work, so to be gentle and take your time along the way. Its a wonderful lifetime exploration.

Sxo

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